Infuriating LinkedIn post about NC
Hello Reddit. This group has been invaluable to me the past few months as I have worked through my shit. I don't expect to be triggered by a LinkedIn post, but this one got me.
Because it is a professional site, I didn't want to reply to the post. I did write something out though and shared it here for the catharsis part of it. I had my diplomatic voice on, but you can probably imagine how I really felt.
"To say that you accounted for the fringe, and then lump everything else into a "messy middle", passively excoriate the community of professionals who deal with the messy middle, and then say that you've done your due diligence is as gross a broad stroke as this overall poor take of yours is.
People these days love to cry about an erosion of values, particularly because the youngest generations look and feel so much different than the ones we grew up with. It is so satisfying to have righteous anger, isn't it? The truth is, the fringe is a larger population than you can imagine, and it looks far different than you think it does. Abuse, trauma, or tension takes many forms, and everyone responds differently. For those who find themselves making a very difficult choice to going to 'no contact' (after exhausting everything else), we need to respect their own agency, and the fact that they are the ones who are allowed to set the thermostat for what is appropriate from their parents, and what isn't.
This "family values" hot take of yours completely denigrates the lifetime of pain that usually precedes the "no contact" decision. While you like to blame empowered children-turned-adults who choose no contact on "social workers" or a value system that doesn't look like yours, know that the people who break through and reach these children-turned-adults with support are doing a service to society, giving voice to the once mute, and ensuring that trauma isn't doomed to be generational.
Please do better."
Thank you for letting me vent.