Tired of squad leading, searching for a community.

Anyone else feel like it's difficult to lead squads currently? I am finding myself getting fatigued fairly quickly, whether it's people taking kits we don't need, spawning where they shouldn't spawn , not waiting for rally/hab, players joining and leaving constantly, arguing and nitpicking directed at your decision making.

I've been around since the early PR days and really enjoy squad leading when you roll the dice and get 8 great team mates, but sometimes I just want to sit back and follow orders whilst playing the game, rather than feeling like I have to teach people how to play by leading them.

The problem is, I'll join a server and see leaders without the officer kit, no HAB being built, squads with no mics and I feel responsible to turn the situation around due to having years of SL experience, I feel like if I am not actively trying to improve the situation, then I am part of the problem.

Maybe it's just a rant, but sometimes I just want to play the damn game with competent people who understand their roles, are there any ex-PR servers that operate with strict rules? I need to find a community before I lose the will to play anymore.