I'm always compared to my mom

So my mom kinda raised herself, her parents having fought and drank a lot. She got into trouble, raised a daughter single, met my dad, went through shit but they worked it out and I'm here. My dad worships the ground my mom walks on and I really admire her as a person and what she's been through, but im tired of being compared to her.

With school, I'm already ahead of so many people considering the program I'm in. I've worked hard, but my mom still thinks I haven't worked "hard enough" like a success story HAS to be founded on blood sweat and tears. Newsflash: im a first gen, low income household college student, and my sister dropped out! My mom is the kind of person who will work her butt off if she's sick because she wants things done and off her plate. When I try to take care of her she refuses and wants to do things.

She's very critical and isn't as encouraging. And I get its because "She wants me to not make the same mistakes she did" but if you're more critical then encouraging it roots in some deep seated insecurities and frustrations.

I'm also job searching and my dad keeps telling me to do what my mom did and apply everywhere, which is what my mom tells me. Newsflash: I have. I applied to 7 different places and got rejected because they aren't hiring. That's apperantly not good enough, and then my dad throws in another example of how great my mom is and I need to follow her example.

I love my mom, and I respect her, but when my life and my problems are constantly compared to hers like they're the end-all be-all situation then it's hard to really admire it, and maybe I'm the jerk for thinking that. But they always try to fix my problems instead of listening to me.

Also, I've tried having this conversation with my parents but my dad gets defensive and calls me "lazy and irresponsible" and my mom just shakes her head and rolls her eyes.

My only real support system is my friend.