Too many guys connect attraction to displaying human decency.
This is a combination of “Men’s preferences arent hated. You’re just an asshole about it” and “There’s a reason women dont give a fuck about the ‘lonely men’ epidemic”
To quick a summary with an example about men’s preferences not being the problem:
What should be said: Im not heavy set myself, and Im not into heavy set girls.
What is actually said: Landwhales think theyre worth a damn just because hot guys pumps and dumps them!
Now, to add to this: Thinking showing someone human decency shows attraction.
- Where a guy will swear he’s nice, but only nice to the girl he wants to fuck in hopes she’ll fuck him.
- Whining about the friendzone because expecting to do friend things for a friend is exhausting to him.
- He tries to get pity sex from any woman showing him sympathy.
I wonder if this is why so many guys in the manosphere insist women depise men who dont fit look like the ‘Top 20%’. Because they despise women they dont find attractive and most likely can only find women like that (shallow attracts shallow).
On semi-related note, it’s possible these guys will claim “women want special treatment, not equality” because they treat other men like shit.
TLDR: Way too many men struggle with the concept that your attraction should not heavily dictate how you treat someone.
Remember, this subreddit tells women to “choose better” but many dont see how that behavior is such a red flag.