How to come back from “Emotional Divorce”

The plot thickens. The therapist told my husband that he thinks our marriage is done because I have “emotionally divorced” him. I understand that completely. But we are choosing to give it 6 months for both of us to make changes, otherwise we divorce amicably.

Pretty much ever since our first born was born, I began to resent the character traits I saw… I’m sure it’s quite common, but he would be so angry, curse at me, and belittle me. It would just happen often. It got so bad, he no longer wants more kids, even tho I do (but I get it). So in this process, I began to withdraw myself emotionally so that I don’t get hurt. I don’t want sex. I can’t stand holding his hand, kissing, etc. And that emasculates him and makes him feel unloved.

A metric ton has happened since, but in the name of “rebuilding what has been completely destroyed,” how do I grow feelings for my husband again? Do I fake it ‘till I make it? We are just both in crisis, and I don’t know how to feel differently. Please offer your kindest advice 🙏 Thank you