Do you pronounce these "T"'s

I happen to say things differently than most, but my mind was blown yesterday when my husband corrected me. I said "the butter will need to soften a bit". He said you don't pronounce the "T"!! And "often". Don't pronounce the "T" 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️. I'm pretty sure I've always said it that way.. does anyone else? For context, born in Kentucky, live in Indiana, but ever since I was young people don't believe me because they think I have an accent they they can't pinpoint.