I (M/20) broke up with my girlfriend (F/20) last Saturday because she told me that playing PC games is childish and that I should stop. I found this very offensive because gaming is my way of coping with stress. How do I deal with someone dismissing my coping mechanism as immature?

Well it may sound much more childish to break up with her stating the above as the cause but trust me it is true. So 10 days ago she just told me that "who plays games??? Grow up you are not a child anymore" and this just hurt me, because gaming is my cope up mechanism to deal with everyday things and that too i game 3-4 times a week, it's not daily.

She knows i love to play games but yet she said this to me and later she told me that she said all those things in anger. But she wasn't angry when she was cursing me, she meant every single word. Adding up to this a couple of days ago I just said her that i don't feel the way i was feeling on the 1st day of our relationship and those who know this will agree, that tbh nobody feels the same way he/she felt on the first day of the relationship...i mean after a point of time you are settled and secure about her/him and you do not get butterflies when you see him/her which is completely normal but this doesn't mean that you do not love that person. You do love that person...it's just that you do not feel the same way you did on 1st day.

IDK in what sense she took, I did told the reason and cause behind this, the same i stated above. She did understood but said for her it's still like the 1st day. Girls reading this tell me if this is a girly thing, cause for my female friends it is a mixed opinion...what are your views on this.

And after this incident she told the gaming thing...and sometimes there is no going back...i am sure that for some of you this won't be a big deal but for me it is, I was low for the next 2 days and then 7 days ago, i.e. last saturday i broke up. I loved her so much and even she did but the way she said that thing to me that day was enough for me fell out of love.

After 2 days of breaking up her junior returned the books she(gf) took from me to read and also there was an envelope with pictures of mine petting the dog and pictures of the places we used to sit and talk and a small note. one thing was mentioned that i'll like to share from that note is that, 'all this was a part of your birthday (in feb) present and now that i don't think we'll meet and it'l be possible to give this to you...so here i am giving it to you right now' I went through the 8 pictures and the note and wrote back to her that 'I do not deserve these pictures and maybe i won't be able to keep these picture in the way you'll be able to keep it, so it's better to have these pictures with you' i also tucked in her hoodie string that was with me inside the same envelope and called up her junior and gave it to her.

I don't know how to proceed with life now, it seems as if I'm a very rude, toxic and a bad person, ik I'm. Each day i do sit down to work and i do get my tasks done but not the way i used to...i am not efficient anymore and a part of my day goes in vain.